Most of us live with far too many expectations—this is also one reason why expectations unfulfilled are awfully disappointing. Expectations reflect our behaviour, including fancied, or distorted attitudes, or previous responses in comparable situations. The actual fact is we are naïve. We’ve our fixated needs, or feelings. This also means we are simply not in charge of our emotions.
It’s only when we cultivate awareness for our latent and/or innate emotions within us can we evolve, understand ourselves and also others, and meet our day-to-day challenges resolutely. What does this mean? That we should be receptive to criticism and unflustered about expressing ourselves. This holds good for every form of expression that we are naturally endowed with—idioms of affection, love, suffering, pain, happiness and action, including ‘putting-up-a-brave-front.’ In other words, the ability to live through troubles, with the hope that ‘this too shall pass.’ This portrays, no less, the face of solidity waiting for the squall to pass through.
Act. Don’t React
It’s apparent that our ability to cope with troubles has the greatest impact on our responses, reactions, proactive nature, or character. For example, people who are confident, self-assured and capable, in their own estimation, are less likely to feel prickly in expressing themselves and/or accepting criticism. Likewise, people who are not self-assured are more likely to be self-protective, guarded, or ‘closed.’ It’s only when we learn, understand, and work hard on correcting this ‘frozen’ context, can we reach a level from where we can truly mirror our emotional state of cultured, or refined, behaviour. The best thing anyone can do is to constantly seek and fulfil a particular need, or choose relationships that seem to realistically fulfil a genuine requirement—not needs that have ulterior motives. It is rightly said that if you have a legitimate ground, or cause, god will help locate your own divine instrument—the instrument to aid your course ‘out of the woods,’ when difficulties, or troubles, engulf us.
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